Happiness ain’t ‘Black or White’

“Happiness is not what you get in life. It is something you bring to life.” Wayne Dyer.

Happiness; a pleasant feeling or euphoric state of mind (as many would say). I would agree before now that it is a feeling only exclusive to some, and eluding to others. For the simple reason that some have certain things and others haven’t.

For long I have feared it, begged it, sought it, and today, I can call myself Happyblacky, unafraid or ashamed. And I say this not because I am free from tears, anxiety, or mood swings, but because I am learning the act of resilience and emphasizing the positive.Ego says, ‘Once everything falls into place, I’ll feel peace.’ Spirit says, ‘Find your peace, and then everything will fall into place.’ Marianne Williamson.

Seeking happiness and validation in the things we lack often leaves us in an endless chase. The moment we realize that we are our own source of happiness, the less we seek it from others. (and even though we might find it in people or the things we love). It is only long lasting when we acknowledge self before others can love us. At the end of the day, we are our longest company, we might as well appreciate ourselves.

As much as it is not expected to be magical, Happiness doesn’t come in black or white, it becomes a habit by practising it in our daily lives. And in my imperfection, here is what I am learning:

-Happiness is unique to each individual. While it may be a collection of materials for some, for others it is those little moments. What brings joy for one, might cause pain for another. Therefore find your own rhythm/simple pleasures and indulge.
-Nurture your thoughts. Circumstances have a way of twisting and feeding our minds with lies like ‘we are undeserving of it’. The truth is Happiness is a free gift, and it is to all. Own it.
-I have learned that one can be happy with problems unresolved. And one way is to switch from complaint mode to gratitude mode. Be grateful for what is left despite what is gone, for all that you have and are rather than the lack of it.There is no happiness to be purchased out there apart from the one that lies within you.  I want to believe that we all have the power to be happy and it isn’t far-fetched. I pray we all find the ‘happy‘ in us and cling to it.

Love, Happyblacky
Xoxo